Why have so many parents forgotten the common-sense approach to
child rearing that has worked for generations? Why look for something
new?
Good question. People began losing confidence in the traditional
approach to child rearing during the 1920s and 1930s. Science was making
great contributions to their lives through inventions and discoveries,
so it was reasonable to think that the experts could provide a better
approach to parenting. An array of gurus--educators, psychiatrists, and
psychologists--rose to the challenge. They began passing off their
personal biases and opinions as scientific fact. Dr. J. B. Watson, the
first and most bizarre of the lot, became enormously influential in that
era. Known as the father of behaviorism, he offered what he called a
foolproof method of child rearing, and mothers bought it hook, line, and
sinker. If only they would follow his advice, he said, they could
produce any kind of child they wanted: "a doctor, lawyer, artist,
merchant-chief, and--yes--even a beggarman and a thief." 1
Watson believed that the mind does not exist--that the human brain
functions as a simple switchboard connecting stimuli and responses. From
that ridiculous foundation, he went on to offer parents advice that was
truly off-the-wall. He wrote:
Never hug and kiss [your children], never let them sit in your lap.
If you must, kiss them once on the forehead when they say good night.
Shake hands with them in the morning. Remember when you are tempted to
pet your child that mother love is a dangerous instrument--an instrument
which may inflict a never-healing wound, a wound which will make
infancy unhappy, adolescence a nightmare, an instrument which may wreck
your adult son or daughter's vocational future and their chances for
marital happiness. 2
Unbelievably, millions of parents followed these notions explicitly
for nearly two decades. A generation of mothers and fathers worked
diligently to condition their children the way Watson recommended. This
strange era in child rearing illustrates the way public confidence
shifted from the time-honored wisdom of the Judeo-Christian ethic to the
bizarre rumblings of pseudoscientific claptrap.
Unfortunately, Watson was succeeded by a long line of self-appointed
"experts" who dreamed up and promoted their own concoctions. Included
among their conclusions were the beliefs that loving discipline is
damaging, authority is "undemocratic," religious instruction is
hazardous, defiance is a valuable ventilator of anger, premarital sex is
healthy, "children's rights" should supersede parental leadership, and
on and on it went.
In recent years, this humanistic perspective has become even more
extreme and anti-Christian. It encompasses everything from "sex equality
training" for three year-olds to teaching homosexual and lesbian
propaganda to elementary school children. In short, the 20th century
spawned a generation of professionals who ignored what has been learned
in 2,000 years of parenting and offered what they considered "better
ideas." Most of what they cooked up was ridiculous at best and dangerous
at worst.
Given that background, you can understand why I have never tried to
invent new concepts or methodology. Instead, my purpose has been simply
to reconnect us with the traditional wisdom of the ages. I didn't
concoct it, nor have I sought to change it. My task has been merely to
report what I believe to be the prescription of the Creator Himself. And
I am convinced that this understanding will remain viable as long as
mothers and fathers and children cohabit the face of the earth.
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